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Sex, Pregnancy, and/or Rape Must End in Marriage?

The pressure to marry when sexual experience is discovered, an unmarried woman is found to be pregnant, or a woman reports a sexual assault is surprisingly common. Many communities turned to religion in an effort to ensure stable families for the results of mingling before birth control.


As an underage teen, I was concerned about the coerced marriages of young people in Sam Fife's Move of God. Rather than evaluating the options, people with less power, especially after being found sinful and therefore in the wrong, were given the solution.


As I look back on the situations where I experienced this, I wonder at the adults with decades more experience than me who felt comfortable making life-altering decisions for inexperienced youth in crisis.


I applaud these young women for standing up against the form of purity culture seeking legal backup in their backyard.


"As January draws to a close, politicians and women’s groups are launching an opposition against a bill slated to be introduced by the ironically-named ruling Justice and Development Party (AK Party) at the end of the month: a bill that would let men accused of raping young girls evade punishment for their crimes by marrying their victims.

Dr. Adem Sözüer, head of Istanbul University’s criminal law department, cautions that the new bill is likely to increase rates of violent abuse against women and girls — even those not pushed into marriage by sexual assault — because of the way it characterizes women’s value:

[The proposed law] legitimises the mentality that women are objects to possess or exist for sexual satisfaction [of men].

That characterization appears to be well in line with the thinking of self-evidently misogynist party leader President Recip Tayyip Erdoğan, who described equality between men and women as “against nature” in 2014, and in 2016 described women’s lives as “incomplete” unless they had children.

As he put it:

A woman who says ‘because I am working I will not be a mother’ is actually denying her feminity [sic]. A woman who rejects motherhood, who refrains from being around the house, however successful her working life is, is deficient, is incomplete.

From there, it’s not such a stretch to say that the wrong done when a man violates a girl is to make her unfit to assume her natural role as a wife and mother. Who would want her now? But if he’s willing to marry her anyway, he’s solved the problem! No harm, no foul, right?

But not everyone in Turkey subscribes to Erdoğan’s retrograde understanding of a woman’s value."


Women's Right Groups Campaigners Resist "Marry Your Rapist" Bill in Turkey

By Val Wilde


Definitions of Yoke illustrates a woman's perspective;

YOKE; Webster's Dictionary

v. t.1.To put a yoke on; to join in or with a yoke; as, to yoke oxen, or pair of oxen.2.To couple; to join with another.

Cassius, you are yoked with a lamb.- Shak.

3.To enslave; to bring into bondage; to restrain; to confine.

Then were they yoked with garrisons.- Milton.

The words and promises that yoke The conqueror are quickly broke.- Hudibras.

v. i.1.To be joined or associated; to be intimately connected; to consort closely; to mate.

We 'll yoke together, like a double shadow.




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